This quote originates from this story about the state of divorce in a struggling economy. I understand divorce on a personal level because I'm married to a victim of divorce. Children are the victims of divorce and my wife is a child of divorce. I have seen first hand the LONG lasting pain that comes from seeing your family foundation split in two.
So here's the question; how do we remove money as an obstacle in marriage? How do we avoid money becoming a source for arguments, frustrations and division in marriages? Frustrations about money are a SYMPTOM of a larger problem in marriage. How we use our money is a picture of the condition and the priorities of our heart. When we don't trust our spouse with how they use money what we're really saying is, "The priorities of my heart is different than the priorities of your heart."
SOLUTION: When couples can first agree on what is important in their lives then their money gets in line with those agreed upon standards. A vast majority of couples never discuss what they are going to base their family spending on so they just spend and the problems build. If you're struggling in your marriage and money seems to be a source of that frustration then remember these two things.
REMEMBER THIS:
1. It's not about the money, it's about your feelings about how the money is being used. Find out why you feel the way you do about how the money is being used. That's the important thing, not the receipts.
2. Divorce costs A LOT. It costs include emotional trauma to your children, lawyer and court fees, alimony payments and separate living spaces.
There are certainly situations where divorce is the only option because of an unrepentant or abuse spouse, but divorce often times does not relieve pain, it actually prolongs it for your lifetime and passes onto the next generation. If you want help on resolving issue about money in your marriage then contact me today.
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